Cancer and The Big “O”

Michelle:  While researching The Young Invincibles we noticed that sex and body image issues are unique when it comes to the YA cancer scene. Whether or not settling down or starting a family are in future plans, young adulthood is the socially designated period for “fun sex” (as opposed to “awkward learning sex” or “routine maintenance sex”) and searching for potential (romantic, life, sex) partners. Developmentally and culturally speaking, the 20’s and 30’s are a perpetual open mating season, a time to romp and frolic in fields of love and genitalia while in your “prime.”

Adding cancer to that mix causes some intriguing side effects and one question tops all the other ones. Many YA cancer survivors feel like it’s a betrayal, the body being destroyed just as it’s expected to be at its physical peak. While the loss of a breast or testicle can surely knock sexuality off kilter, the ways people deal with and express themselves when faced with such circumstances are continually amazing. The Scar Project is jaw-droppingly moving and empowering for viewers and participants alike. If you happen to live in the NYC area you should definitely check out the exhibition.

Our friends over at Babeland recently posted on their Facebook:  “Sex Tips for Cancer Survivors.” Get inspiration from erotica and porn if your familiar ways of getting off aren’t working. Be open to new ideas and don’t judge yourself for what you respond to.

Ms. Selin Caka, sex therapist in training, wrote a fantastic post about positive cancer + sex, pointing out that being forced to deal with the physiological implications of cancer can lead to a new found openness about one’s body and sense of sensuality. In a recent chat with her, Caka went on to say, “If someone’s suffering through chemo, or looks in the mirror every day and hates what they see, living in their skin can feel awful. Sex is a great way to remind us how amazing our bodies can make us feel. Even if it’s solo, a good orgasm can change the color of the world for a while, and that can be powerful medicine.” Check out her blog at

8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Gracyn
    Mar 02, 2014 @ 00:15:23

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    Dec 04, 2013 @ 08:51:19

    Articles like these put the consumer in the driver seat-very important.


  3. Vegeta
    Jan 04, 2013 @ 06:07:59

    I’ve always wtnead a little girl first. A little boy eventually, but for our first – a little cutie pie baby girl. I’m the oldest, and maybe you want what you had? I have a younger brother and love our relationship, hubs has an older sister and younger brother and wants three kids. Really though, healthy happy babies are all that matter!


    • Dsg
      Nov 06, 2013 @ 13:18:43

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    • Lena
      Mar 06, 2014 @ 16:13:14

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  4. Brian
    Jan 04, 2013 @ 04:30:22

    Well, actually we only dedeicd on a name a month or two before I gave birth and we had no one in our surroundings that were giving birth around the same time. I did notice that telling people your choice of names causes all sorts of drama so maybe for that part we might keep it secret for baby 2. not sure.We did have ‘names we liked’ and people stole those… but now that I think back, I wouldn’t of named my child that anyway. Too common (now)


  5. Huh?
    Jan 07, 2011 @ 01:57:56

    How on earth do you people get off describing the horror that is cancer this way? You ignore the very essence of the experience. For 1 year you’re dead. You’re in chemotherapy then radiation then reconstructive surgery. You guys don’t get cancer at all. It’s one messed up year or more of a person’s life. AND, some people sadly die and lose the battle. That result doesn’t sound like it will be covered in the movie. To not cover death is to say a large portion of cancer pstients’ lives didnt matter.


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